In Santa Monica, in the winter time, The lazy streets so undemanding I walk into the crowd In Santa Monica, you get your coffee from The coolest places on the promenade Where people dress just so Beauty so unavoidable, everywhere you turn It's there I sit and wonder what am I doing here? But on the telephone line I am anyone I am anything I want to be I could be a super model or Norman Mailer And you wouldn't know the difference Or would you? In Santa Monica, all the people got modern names Like Jake or Mandy And modern bodies too In Santa Monica, on the boulevard, You'll have to dodge those In-line skaters Or they'll knock you down I never felt so lonely, Never felt so out of place I never wanted something more than this | ||
But on the telephone line I am anyone I am anything I want to be I could be a super model or Norman Mailer And you wouldn't know the difference On the telephone line, I am any height I am any age I want to be I could be a caped crusader, or space invader And you wouldn't know the difference Or would you? |
Men’s and women’s differing sexual desires can be a bit of a mine field and it is a challenge that many couples face. One partner may feel in the mood for sex the whole time, while the other may have little or no interest.
Desire isn’t just down to one factor and different people have different levels of it. Your libido varies throughout the course of your life. While some changes to your body are easy to accept, others aren’t so easy to get to grips with and can create problems for you both.
Creating positive sexual desire doesn't have to be difficult, although it can take a little time. See for yourself how positively anticipating sex can completely turn your sex life around and the difference between men and women when it comes to desire.
We give you five points about desire that you need to know and some tips on how to get it back.
More, more, more.
If there is one thing that men would say about sex is that they can’t get enough of it and want more. That isn’t to say that that women don’t experience this, but there are some women who suffer from a low libido and sometimes just don’t have the desire to have sex.
This obviously can create a void in the bedroom which can affect a relationship.
Chemistry, hormones and all that jazz.
It has been found that women’s libido is always higher and stronger at the beginning of a relationship due to the chemistry in the brain related to being ‘in love’.
However, over time this will diminish in some women leaving them with little desire to be intimate. Some researcher and psychologist have suggested that this can be due to women having exceptionally lower levels of testosterone than men.
Constant drive.
Men never really experience low levels of libido, except maybe in times of stress or exhaustion, as they are wired to ‘spread their seed’ so to speak. It is something that is underlying with all men, and even in the animal kingdom too.
It is a subconscious and goal directed desire... as well as their desire and love for their partner of course.
Emotional correlation
It isn’t just about ‘spreading their seed’. Men also need to feel an emotional connection, just as women do. For men though, they usually experience this after sex and it is when they ejaculate, their peak levels of oxytocin (the cuddle hormone) are released.
Women’s levels of this hormone are much higher and they experience it most of the time. Therefore, the difference in desire to have sex can leave men feeling rejected and unwanted.
Familiarity breeds boredom
In the beginning of a relationship, the sex is great, impulsive and constant for a couple. You just can’t get enough of each other. However, on average, this will only last for 18 months to two years.
A breakdown in sexual activity is one of the most commonly cited reasons for partners to go looking for ‘it’ elsewhere or for the relationship to breakdown. However, in a long term relationship it is unreasonable to think that the sex can remain as impulsive as it was in the early days.
Just because you've been together for years doesn't mean you've stayed the same. One of the reasons sex becomes stale is because it becomes familiar and desire can diminish.
Weird, weird and very weird.
